The solution to a bad marriage is a reorientation to the radical spousal love of Christ in the gospel. “Thou shall not commit adultery” makes sense in the context of the spousal love of Jesus, especially in the cross, where he was completely faithful to you. Only when you know the spousal love of Christ will you have a real fortitude against lust. His love is fulfilling – which keeps you from looking to sexuality to give you what only Jesus can give.
What is the point? What makes you faithful or generous [or sexually pure?] is not just a redoubled effort to follow moral rules. Rather, all change comes from deepening your understanding of the salvation of Christ and living out of the changes that understanding creates in your heart. Faith in the gospel restructures our motivations, our self-understanding, our identity, and our view of the world. Behavioural compliance to rules without heart-change will be superficial and fleeting.
Tim Keller, The Prodigal God (pg. 118)
Rarely do you ever get anyone give any practical advice in terms of battling lust (except lists of don’ts)… Keller gives both the theological advice (above) and the practical – also worth checking out is his after sermon Q&A on this subject, his main point, that I remember anyway, is that all physical lust is sexual energy, certainly it is more than just physical but it is still energy that needs to be released… through a punch bag maybe? I’m pretty lazy, but he’s got a point, it’s all energy and there’s different ways, some godly, some not, to release that energy. Have a listen below…
Forgiveness isn’t easy, it’s not free or even cheap, it shouldn’t be assumed, or taken for granted, it’s not about forgetting, or ignoring, or pretending things don’t matter, that they don’t hurt.
Mark Driscoll kicked off the Dwell London conference by explaining the gospel – highlighting the difference between the Gospel of Grace, and the Religion of Works.








