So we were thinking at Costa Tuesdays about Genesis 39 and looking into the issue of Temptation. As I’ve said I don’t think it’s really the main point, but there are clearly lessons to learn and insights into how temptation works… in terms of seduction… where our eyes look… what our minds think… the places we are… who we’re with… how ultimately we chose to respond.
At this point I want to help guys and girls alike see where their temptations lie…at this point the danger is being too personal so as to be awkward or too specific to miss the heart, or too vague so as to not challenge at all… But here is a generalisation I came up with… Men are tempted and trigged by Boredom… Women are tempted by Envy…
Let me paint the picture for this generalisation with a couple of quotes from popular magazines… firstly a Men’s Health article that talks about the idea of Monogamy sounding boring, but why men stick with it (very interesting), and Cosmopolitan on the culture of envy among women.
Monogamy, monogamy, monogamy…Sounds an awful lot like monotony, doesn’t it? Or Monopoly? Do I hear mahogany? Not exactly sizzling: tedium, an endless board game and your great-aunt’s dining table. Monogamy just doesn’t sound like much fun, certainly not in comparison to its alternative.Still, a hunch lingers that true happiness–the deep, sustaining contentment we seek–lies somewhere down Monogamy Road. If only we could find our way past all the soft, warm, scented bodies of this tempting world.
Telling people how much money you make or the number of orgasms you had last night used to be considered inappropriate. But in today’s confessional society, we’re encouraged to spill or even brag about all the good things that happen to us.
Trouble is, this oversharing has given rise to a new level of envy. Status is much more important than it used to be, and we’re way more competitive, says Jean Twenge, PhD, author of Generation Me. People want others to know they’re living well. And since there’s more pressure than ever to keep up, hearing intimate details of someone’s life can make you feel envious.
Maybe I’m way off… but I think there’s something in those ideas of Boredom and Envy…










